I‘m a fairly typical woman, I suspect. You can feed me, treat me to a day at the spa, send me flowers and/or make me a sweet card full of love and you will have done your “I love you mommy” duty in terms of Mother’s Day.
My family pretty much knows that a little bit of fuss goes a long way. There’s no lying, I like to be fussed over from time to time – especially since I’m usually the one driving everyone crazy by fussing over them.
But, this year I will happily take a pass on the spa, the treats (especially the high-calorie ones) and the flowers. This year, I really only want one thing.
That would be a smiling family (well, and a very long sleep and a 24-hour period of complete silence…considering taking that vow myself).
One of the things I think many of us struggle with is keeping our families thinking positive, moving in a forward direction, all while feeling satisfied about our role in it all, our place in life and what we get out of it all. It seems nearly impossible at times to manage the worlds of tiny (and big) people who need constant redirection as well as care without totally forgetting about ourselves. There’s no magic bullet for dialing it all in. It seems like we as moms are forever in flux, changing on a dime, wondering if we will ever have a moment again to just be.
I know this is a constant in my life. I’m pulled in a thousand different directions. Nurturing momma. Homeschool the big one. Inspired to write. Business owner. Community activism. Service before self. Get fit. Have fun. Date nights with Ken. Try to play with friends. Connect with family.
How do we balance it all? I suspect that is a fantasy that will only happen when pigs fly.
In the mean time, whenever my family asks me what I want for Mother’s Day (or any day for that matter), I’m gonna continue with the mantra of “Happy Family, Happy Family, Happy Family” and hope that the roaring, the frenetic energy, the constant chatter, the moping about not getting what they want and my personal forever questioning of how to do it better settles into a nice chaotic hum that is life full of love and humanity and…of course…sweet family.