There is absolutely no scientific data or testing to base my latest theory on kids and personality. But, whether pediatricians and scientists around the world buy into my theory or not, my life-experience data has led me to decide that I have made a breakthrough in determining the personalities of children…until of course I am disproven about 30 seconds from now.
At any level, I’ve spent a lot of time observing the tiny people in my life these days and discussing this new idea of mine with fellow mommas. They are at least humoring me by agreeing that there may be some merit in my pontification. So, why not share?
While neither of our daughters are quiet or shy, they have wildly different dispositions. It’s no surprise really, and I still sort of wonder what made me think that Quinn would be anything like her big sister.
But, there they are in all of their wonderful sweetness – two amazing kids who are like yin and yang.
As I’ve watched them both over time I started to wonder about how they come to their dispositions – is it genetic? Environmental? Something they learn? Cosmic even?
Then, I started to think about their personalities as they relate to their births. These kiddos could not, literally, have had more different entrances into the world. Could they have found their sense of self in the way they arrived? I set out to prove out my theory one way or the other.
My methodology was simple – take a look at their births and their personalities and see if things line up (very scientific, I know). Strangely, I discovered that I may be on to something, or mildly insane – one or the other (I vote for both).
Our oldest daughter is remarkably reflective of her birth. It was 10 days late, long and dramatic with moments of unbelievable wow and emergencies, drawing a crowd for the spectacle. Then, boom, she announced her presence with authority. She literally came out with a giant roar and has never stopped. No napping. No pausing. No slow and easygoing. She’s all about the adventure. Welcome to Mhari. That is pretty much how I would describe her from top to tail.
Quinn, on the other hand, was the most easygoing birth ever. Contractions started. They kept going. We kept going. Everyone was totally laid back. She arrived just hours before her due date with a deliberate sense of purpose and came out with a giant smile on her face. Welcome to Quinn. She is deliberate as all get out and one of those kids who is almost always smiling. She’s lovely and social. Will hang out and do her thing for hours as long as she’s got mom or dad nearby. Then let’s you know as soon as she needs something in distinct, deliberate ways.
Hmmmm, could I be a genius? Not likely.
But, I do wonder if that amazing moment when we leave our moms and enter into this world is the defining moment for who we are.
So, what do you think? When you look back at your kids births do they reveal a bit of those personalities? I don’t need to be right. But, I am curious to see if I’m at least mildly observant.